Tuesday, February 3, 2009

31/01/09


Hi Everyone,

So today is Saturday, and I’ve successfully finished my first week of classes. I seem to be on track doing all the touristy stuff in Dakar. My environment and agriculture class was canceled on tuesday, leaving me with a whole day free, which I used to go to the beach.

I went with the Papa and his French guests (a couple) to L’Ile de Ngor, a beautiful little island with two beaches. It was sunny and warm, but I didn’t brave the water. I had a bit of an adventure getting there, because I decided last minute to go, so the others had already left. So, I took a taxi, but the taxi driver ignored what Papa told via telephone to drop me off at the pathway to the beach. Instead I found myself in a little town square sitting on a bench next to some sheep. This wouldn’t have been any problem except I had no idea where Papa and the others were waiting for me, since his directions to the taxi driver had been in Wolof. After a few minutes a nice man showed me the way down to the beach were I found the group. Excepting this little hang up, the day went smoothly, with a little walk around the island, lunch at a nice restaurant, and some sun bathing. It reminded me of vacation last summer hanging out on the beach with Nancy, Phoebe, and Sarah. L’Ile de Ngor is definitely a tourist place because the people in the boat over were almost entirely white. I wonder if the Sengalese have a different beach where they go, or if swimming and sunbathing is mostly a western thing. Either way, I won’t know for a while since the Senegalese probably don’t go now since it’s “winter” and all. Also a weekday is probably not prime time for going to the beach since most people would be working.

Even disregarding my canceled class, I don’t spend as much time in class here as I’m used to (no labs to monopolize my schedule!!!). I made a little chart with my class schedule since that seemed easier than trying to write out an explanation. (sorry it's blurry, it uploaded strangely).


So as you can see my program is structured with each class meeting infrequently but for a long time. Most of the professors give us a short break in the middle of class, which is especially nice during the three hour language classes (it helps my head hurt less :) This class load is 12 credits, and I’ll get another four for my internship.

So far I’ve been satisfied with the academic level of our classes, and pleasantly surprised by the quality of the other students. My fellow students are really a participatory, interested, and smart group. I have much to learn from most of them, since for the most part they are anthropology or international studies majors, and have studied international development and culture much more than me. It doesn’t bother me, but sometimes I feel a little behind when the book and movie references start flowing since I haven’t read/seen most of them.

Today at lunch time I helped cook for the first time. I was just sitting near the kitchen when some garlic cloves and a knife appeared in front of me, and just like that, I was helping. I could tell that my host sisters, cousin, and the maid didn’t think I’d done much cooking before because I was the designated peeler (garlic, onions, and potatoes), and when I finished something it was celebrated. I was kind of glad I got the easy jobs, because honestly beyond peeling, many of the tasks are accomplished differently here. The women don’t really use the stovetop like we do (many families don’t have an oven and stove). They cook more things over this big gas burner that’s about floor height. Also, there is a metal like thing they put charcoal in, and then place pots right on top of the charcoal. That seems to be the slow boil method for meat, while the gas burner cooks the veggies, rice, or fish for the upcoming meal.

Everyday my host sisters come home from school at lunchtime to help with the lunch preparation, and dinner prep is also started. For a while I was amazed in the evenings how fast they cooked fairly complicated meals, but now I understand their secret. Our host mom doesn’t seem to cook at all. Today when my host sisters were at school, my cousin Virginie and the maid did the cooking. In the evenings Cathy and Therese (my host sisters) do all the cooking and the dishes. A little different than our house, right mom?

I understand that it’s a different culture, but it doesn’t sit well with my that the men do absolutely nothing around the house. The women spend hours each day preparing what I consider big meals for both lunch and dinner (rice, vegetables, fish, and always some sort of homemade sauce for the fish), and the men do nothing except eat and leave. I think my host brothers and father have ever washed a dish, or a single garment in their lives, even though no one here has a dishwasher or a laundry washing machine. The worst part for me, is that they completely take the women’s work for granted. Often there isn’t even a thank you given to the cooks, and it’s clearly an expectation that the women will do all the household work.

One reason that families can operate this way is that single adults don’t live apart from their families. In many families, there is more than one adult female to help with the work, and because the men never live in a household without women they don’t have to learn how to manage the house. Also, aside from helping other families with household work (maid or laundress) women usually don’t work outside of the home, so they are able to manage the household upkeep.

As far as the work itself, the biggest difference is the amount of time it takes to accomplish the same task. For example, all the laundry is done by hand, so on Wednesdays there is a laundress who come to the house and spends hours (I went to class so I don’t know what time she left) doing everyone’s laundry. But, each person has to wash their own socks and undergarments, and I’ve definitely decided that the washing machine is my new favorite appliance. I’m working on being more patient, but doing laundry by hand is mind numbing work. Since the cooking and household chores take so much time, it is harder to spend time with the women of the house, and I was glad to be included in their work today.


5 comments:

  1. Hi Mel,

    Congratulations on getting through your first week! It's interesting to hear how different some aspects of your life are in Senegal. Right now in our life as college students food is something that magically appears in metal bins in the dining commons. Next year in our apartment (Yea!) we're going to be learning just what exactly it takes to make food "magically" appear.

    I think if I had to wash my own clothes by hand I would be much more careful about jumping into mud piles or sliding around on the grass during a good game of Ultimate. Cleaning those clothes would be a pain...

    Right now I'm reading a book that you might be interested in, Mel. It's called, "The Word According to Eve: Women and the Bible in Ancient Times and Our Own". So far it's definitely given me some interesting insights. Evan's mother gave it to me just before we left for college after winter break.

    As for that funny story I promised you... So, for this week our bible study hangout was Jonah, Veggietales style. I walked down to Melissa and Lorielle's apartment, enjoying the relatively warm night (you know State College weather), but when I got there I found out that I had unfortunately fast-forwarded through a day of the week. Whoops! So after I walked out their door, heading back to Simmons, I decided to do an intensely demanding and absolutely stunning aerobatics trick on their flight of stairs. Yea! And then I ran into Sarah and Benglish on my way back to the dorms and we talked for a couple minutes. Okay, maybe it wasn't the funniest story in the world, but it was perhaps one of the craziest nights I've had here in State College since you and Ben went away. (But the crazy nights with you and Ben were much more enjoyable than this one)

    Love,
    Maureen

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  2. I'm with Maureen. I never imagined how differently things are done in another country. It makes me realize how much I take for granted. Doing laundry is by far my least favorite thing about college life - just ask Dana or Li. I can't imagine how miserable I'd be if I had to do it all by hand. Now I am extremely thankful for the simplest appliances.

    I think a great way to make an impact in your family's lives is by not complaining about all the extra work. If your family has hosted others before, I'm sure they've heard a fair deal of complaints. Just doing everything with joy will definitely set you apart from the past visitors as a wonderful person and a follower in Christ. And doing all the work will surely provide opportunities to spend more time with the women in the family.

    I miss you lots. I missed the first pre navs dinner because no one texted to tell me when and where. And I just joined Jaimy and Maureen's Bible study... and you're not there :( But as sad as I am that you are gone, I am really excited for you and to hear more stories.

    Love,
    Salty

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  3. You really have a lot of Wolof, but I think it's good to learn a non-european language, not that I have much experience learning continental languages:) So you guess you'll know a lot by the time you get back, do you know your weekdays/do they say them the same as in arabic?
    How little they think about 'fairness' and division of work in other cultures can be surprising, especially since it's so unequal. Sounds like Morocco but a little bit more extreme.
    Your pictures look good and the tourism stuff looks like a lot of fun. The question though, how do you like the food?
    WEK

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  4. Hi Maureen,
    So I liked your funny story, even if you don't think it was that funny. Yeah, I definitely mourn over stain more since I got here, since I know that someone will be scrubbing it out by hand, even if its not me. I think our host family has defintely had a lot of US students who complained about stuff, and really weren't that interested in spending time with the family. For the first week or so, this manifested itself as our host siblings seeming pretty disinterested in us. But then bam Dutch BLitz happened! When I finally taught them the game, it was a huge hit! Actually it wasn't all dutch blitz, but we (Danielle and I) are feeling like a real part of the family now.

    Thanks for the book recommendation. Maybe you can loan it to me when I get back. Right now I'm finally getting around to reading the C.S. Lewis that I own, and also Walden (Thoreau) that I got out of the WARC library. I figure as an even semi environmentalist I should read it. :) So far, so good.

    Sarah,

    Nice to hear from you Salty!! I have to remember to check the comments on my blog, because that's why it took so long for me to respond. I have enjoyed helping my host family some, even if it's only cooking so far. They have hired help to do most of the other housework, so I can't really help with that without putting someone our of a job. Danielle and I are planning an all American food day on Saturday so that the women don't have to cook at all! We have lunch/brunch figure out, but dinner is still up in the air. Some ingredients (like ricotta cheese for lasagna) don't exist here, which I was majorly bummed to find out.

    Why did you switch bible studies? Of course I think my study basically the best ever, but just wondered why you wanted to change. Is Li still going to some study?

    Will,

    We do have Wolof a lot, but that's also partially because we only have real classes the first half of the semester. After mid March we're supposed to know enough Wolof to survive... I'm getting increasingly skeptical about learning enough Wolof before then. Maybe if I'm lucky someone will speak French, although my vocabulary in French often fails me too...it's easy to just see what I don't understand or know and forget how much I've already learned, in both Wolof and French. The weekdays are partially the same, but not exactly the same. When I have my Wolof notebook with me, I'll send them to you via email.

    I have found out since I wrote this entry, that no my host brother Antoine did actually help put the dishes away once, when only one of the 4 females who live in our house was home. It has now become a much rememebered event, but I don't think is likely to happen again. So apparently he knows how to cook eggs too, but only does it when he doesn't like the meal that is already prepared.

    The food is good. The Seneglaese eat a lot of rice and fish with various sauces. Although my family also has beef, pork, and chicken fairly regularly. Spaghetti, french fries, mac and cheese, and several potato dishes have also appeared. Generally lunch is rice and fish, eaten communally around one platter, but dinner is fancier with individual plates and more variety of food. Oh, but there is this fish dish called yassa, which is also the name for the onion sauce in the dish, that is really good!! Most foods are kind of spicy but not too much, and you can always add more pimente sauce (some sort of hot peppers) if it's not hot enough.

    Love you everyone!!!

    Mel

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  5. That's a bummer about the cheese. I'm sure the women will be sooo appreciative though if they don't have to cook. It sounds like a lot of work from what you've described... or at least a lot more than what we're used to.

    And yes, your study is the best, which is obviously why I switched!! I'm a lot closer to Jaimy and Maureen than most of the girls in the study I was going to. And I figured since we're going to be living together, it'd be a great setting for all of us to get to know each other better. I think Li is still going to the one on my floor... maybe she'll come to this one though.

    Should I keep contacting/responding to you on your blog? Or should I email or facebook you instead?

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